We are all like this. We have been programmed to fear change. Friends and family who are frightened they might lose us as we move on put doubt into our minds so that we are tortured as to what to do. Usually when this happens, we stop ourselves from fulfilling our destiny. “What do you want to do that for?” is the first thing usually said by others. Then come the questions with a negative overtone. Very rarely does anyone say “Great!”
Recently at a meeting I attended, one of the participants – a woman I know quite well – pointed out to me that she would have more time to socialize now as she had left her marriage. Intuitively I had known for some time that she was not happy in her marriage. In fact, it had aged her terribly. I was so pleased for her and told her so. She informed me that I was the only one who was positive about it. Everyone else had questioned why she had left. Nobody had supported her or even asked why she was leaving. She was the “Scarlet Woman” as far as they were concerned. It did not matter that she was unhappy; she should stay!
Our path in life is to try to be happy. We cannot be happy, though, if things in our life are making us unhappy. A few months later this woman has taken ten years off her age, she vibrates with energy, she is sleeping soundly (something she never used to do), and is happy for the first time in her life. Is it wrong for her to want to be happy? I think not!
For me, I was terrified of going to New Zealand because I had never been there before and I had been stripped of all I owned – including my business bank account – when my first husband took it all out of the bank without my permission. I was terrified, but I should not have been.