Your children are only in your care. They choose you as their parent for the lessons you will help them to learn. You are often the catalyst for their experiences. Many children are young adults even while very young. People comment on them as ‘old souls’ or of ‘having been here before’. At an early age (depending on the child) they should be encouraged to do everything for themselves. So many parents try to do it for the child, perhaps because of their own childhood being so hard and they want to help their child avoid the life they had. However, when one helps a child to do something they can do for themselves, one stops that child’s growth. Each soul comes into an incarnation with the skills to learn all they need for their growth. Often the parents think that, because they are children, they need parental guidance. Yes, they do. But children need to learn from their own experiences, not from those of the parents. Children are far more resilient than adults. They can cope with the most difficult of circumstances because they have nothing else to judge them against. To them, difficult circumstances are normal. Only the adults say, “You can’t do that,” and by doing so they stop the child from learning the lesson of the action.
I was once asked when a child should start to make their own decisions and I told this soul, “Five years of age is when a child should start making their own decisions.” By doing this, they can select their own life, not that which their parents choose. So many children are pushed into doing things they do not want to do because “mother or father wanted me to do that.” Each child is programmed astrologically to find their own lessons and to fulfill their own destiny. Adults stop that from happening. If a child is allowed to go with the flow, they will be led and guided to where they have to go; the right circumstances will come to them to enable them to fulfill their destiny. If you, as an adult, stop that from happening, you will stop the growth of your child.
Let your child go and see the evolution of that soul. This does not mean that there should not be discipline or rules in the home. These are very important, but each child should be allowed to choose their own destiny and how they fulfill it.