One of the hardest things for me to learn has been detachment. As I have moved along the spiritual road and learned my many lessons, one of the hardest things has been to detach emotionally from situations which, prior to my becoming metaphysical, I would not have done so. One of the reasons for our life on this earth plane is to become detached – not to give any energy to anything or anyone – in other words, not to react in an emotional way. It is a form of discipline in a way, and one I found very hard to do.
In my many years as a reader it became very hard to switch off from the issues of my clients. I would do a reading and, if the client had a really bad issue, I would worry about it after the reading so much that sometimes I could not sleep. My childhood was deeply ingrained in getting involved in everyone’s issues. My mother would always be at someone’s house helping them out. Instead of letting them learn their lessons, she would become involved and often spent her own money in helping them pay overdue accounts. She pawned her wedding ring so many times to help people out, and my brother and I would often go to school with cardboard covering the holes in our shoes – rainy days as well – because my mother had helped someone out financially and had no money for shoe repairs or new shoes. Of course, we children were often brought into the issue also. We had to listen to our mother telling us how lucky we were to have what we had, as so and so down the street had just lost his/her job, or had so much debt they could not put food on their children’s plates. I was brought up with the knowing that I needed to help people.